Musing

Thank you BB for saying it better and more fully than I could. The pain I hear most about is with men who lie and men who cannot tell the difference between having an equal place in the relationship and domination. Sure the living together option is part of many issues, and I agree that it is a double edged sword. I have heard a lot of guys say that if they want to live together they should be able to, with no reference to the feelings of their partner, apparently the partner's only choice is to end the relationship. What might be more workable is guys who are open to living together if their partner is willing - and I doubt that I will hear that anytime soon. Women need to learn to say no when they want a commitment that is not there. Statistics Canada has reported a trend to "living apart together" roughly defined as living apart from someone whose decisions affect your decisions and so on. Women may need to educate each other about the "living apart together" option, and of course living together may be a viable option for those who are not looking for commitment. And as far as compromise is concerned, not everyone wishes to take the greater physical risk and risk if infertility that comes with waiting for your first pregnancy until you are in your late thirties. Maybe guys, who are not going to be pregnant, need to consider their partners feelings before deciding not to have a child until they are forty, LHE, Calgary

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BB truths the lie when sHE says that more choices don't mean that we can chose everything. Its all about priorities; when we chose one thing it moves us closer to something - and further away from something else. The challenge in life is to figure out where we want to be, and make sure we are heading in that direction. Happiness is a process, not a destination, KK, Calgary

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Your mention of Clancy (Tom Clancy) in today’s Musing, reminded me of another Clancy, one of my all-time favourites. This Clancy is the title character of a poem "Clancy of the Overflow". It is a poem by Banjo Paterson, one of Australia's favourite sons, and it was first published in The Bulletin, an Australian news magazine, on December 21, 1889. The poem is typical of Paterson, offering a romantic view of rural life, and is one of his best-known works. It is written from the point of view of a city-dweller who once met the title character, a shearer and drover, and now envies the imagined pleasures of Clancy's lifestyle, which he compares favourably to life in "the dusty, dirty city" and "the round eternal of the cashbook and the journal". The title comes from the address of a letter the city-dweller sends, "The Overflow" being the name of the sheep station where Clancy was working when they met. I have attached the poem – I hope you enjoy the rolling rhythm, the powerful images and wry sense of humour, as much as I do. It is a terrific poem to read out loud! If you have a coffee or lunch time slot open in the next couple of weeks, it would be great to catch up on all the news and views! Let me know if you can see a time when we could get together. Keep on with the mmmmmarvellous Musings!, Regards, ND, Calgary

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Loved the painter image today Mark! Interesting how people hang onto their beliefs and their words...., FA, Calgary

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I did enjoy the painting analogy.....I DO paint and will remember you when I start my next piece. d please keep in touch. Do you ever come to FL?, JW, Ft. Lauderdale