Musing

3C/37F, warming, spectacular sunrise shaping up; a short slow walk around the lagoon - my left foot is acting up again; ice-gel packs helping but moving slow & easy

go easy, ease into it slowly

some people try but they can’t keep it up

they try really seriously, but cannot sustain it

they can be firm in their resolve for a while, but not long; they can be straight to the point, then they waver; they can be strong & focused but without staying power

why the difficulty - it is so easy & simple to communicate, right?

so simple that so much of our time gets consumed with he said-she said, what did he mean by that?, what was she implying?

I hate that

I like meeting someone where two people can just launch into a conversation without the superficiality; I like that so much better

connecting with someone for the first time – potential new friend, a call from a new client prospect, a new neighbour or a staffer in a store – we encounter so many people every day for the first time; I find this an interesting study

sometimes it is about 'first impressions', how we make them & what we make of them; how to be at ease without hype or stress or sweaty palms

sometimes it is about getting to the point, but more often it is about getting the communication going quickly on a level that suits us, that is effective & where we get through the pretentious politically correct crappolo that so often gets in the way; case in point – meeting MH yesterday – it turned out we had some things in common & huge differences but could easily talk without the junk getting in the way

not being at ease inhibits effective communication, it prevents getting to know someone at all or at least prevents it happening quickly

sometimes old friends serve an extraordinary purpose; beyond the friendship & the caring there is such comfort in not having to struggle with superficial pretensions; I can call an old friend & talk for a minute or an hour about something deeply personal, intimate or ribald – it doesn’t matter – it is so easy

clearly speaking, honesty & directness seem off-putting to a lot of people I encounter, in fact some of them can't handle it at all - they struggle to find the easy way, ease eludes them

rather than boundaries, they have walls, moats & fierce defenses protecting who they are from view all the while saying how much they would like to get acquainted - easing into easy would take them months, years or longer!

someone told me recently I should write a book about this kind of stuff; I am

ease should be easier to ease into with new folks we meet, shouldn’t it?

go easy, please

it is so easy

I am meeting someone for lunch today - set up by the great folks at 'It's Just Lunch', I'm told 'this woman is a fantastic match for you'

I hope it’s easy

on the other hand, it’s just lunch

Mark

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