Sunday, June 11, 2006
Sunday June 11, 2006 - Year 4, Day 83 - time well spent
13C/55 F, sprinkling rain, threatening sky - Gusta reviewing Saturday landscape misadventures & amateur sod laying around the neighbourhood, my heel misbehaving - a twinge left over from golf
time well spent sleeping in, walking late, morning papers, as e-mail banter & calls from friends delayed this writing; given Sunday evening ritual de rigeur a late start & good sleep were best - near perfection
breakfast - near perfection - papers, orange juice, coffee, toasted bagel smothered in cream cheese smothered further with slivers of smoked salmon – time well spent
change & growth – personal, professional & societal – things we talk about at cocktail parties, in cocktail lounges & especially when friends call after a night of being cocktailed – or worse, of having no one to share a cocktail with
early reggae rhythm ‘don’t worry, be happy’ is advice near perfection, rarely taken; a friend spent a Saturday night at home alone wishing she hadn’t, a friend spent the evening out only to go home to someone who needed to talk – she would rather have been alone or to have not gone home; it seems Sunday morning blues, a different shade than other blue days; or maybe it is because we have time to lounge around thinking about them
typical, it seems, for humans to be unhappy with their situation; typical too of many people is quiet complacency or resignation, a belief circumstances cannot change
Q - T or F: situations cannot be changed much without substantial effort
A - False, sometimes, most times, tiny things change the course of lives, thinking, circumstance - sometimes VERY tiny things
most circumstances do not change; change comes from the actions we take, not from the circumstances
spontaneous hello, spontaneous politically incorrect response, walking a different route, listing to someone new – or to someone old from a different vantage point – these opportunities seized without money, influence, power or social position – just a little word, a look, a step or even a mis-step can be near perfection
golf & funny bones colliding; little leaves KK lost for words, but talking about close encounters of a muser, female musers to be precise including married ones wanting than just ‘coffee’ produced more wide-eyed questions than rebuttal, more laughter than anything
back nine conversation returned to important issues: could we manage a decent score in the best-ball tournament with 1 beginner [1st round lifetime] & 2 rusty [1st round of the year] players on our team? after 5 hrs. sustained catch up chat interrupted only by some good shots, some bad shots, some good laughs & a bratwurst at the turn – two guys ‘of a certain age’ probably no different than any other 2 guys getting together; we talk about common interests, business, work, politics & women – we finished well out of the ‘prize money’ at 6-over
thanks KK, it was time well spent
I think most married men have no idea what the world of single men & single women is like (kudos to KK for being a thoughtful listener - or maybe just a thoughtful friend who listens with empathy + he is one of those rare male types who talks about his feelings); unlike married women who talk about it & read about it voraciously in search of perfection, of the tricks to awake their mates to something so simple, yet so elusive
based on my extensive research on this subject, no woman wants to say to her husband: ‘honey, I just want you to touch me warmly out of the blue for no reason at all’ because if she does then she always wonders if he really meant it or if it was just a means to an end, her end
gentlemen: there is more to a relationship than this simple truth, but not much more brilliance is required if you get this one right; so touch her warmly out of the blue for no reason at all
no need to thank me or Dr. Phil or any guru – just enjoy the many fruits of very little labour
seems I scored a direct hit yesterday: that spot where a nerve, a funny bone, a tush & a heart converge – I had no idea they were located in the same spot
thanks to all who wrote - near perfection
I don’t live in near perfection or Maui, but I can see it from here
Mark
time well spent sleeping in, walking late, morning papers, as e-mail banter & calls from friends delayed this writing; given Sunday evening ritual de rigeur a late start & good sleep were best - near perfection
breakfast - near perfection - papers, orange juice, coffee, toasted bagel smothered in cream cheese smothered further with slivers of smoked salmon – time well spent
change & growth – personal, professional & societal – things we talk about at cocktail parties, in cocktail lounges & especially when friends call after a night of being cocktailed – or worse, of having no one to share a cocktail with
early reggae rhythm ‘don’t worry, be happy’ is advice near perfection, rarely taken; a friend spent a Saturday night at home alone wishing she hadn’t, a friend spent the evening out only to go home to someone who needed to talk – she would rather have been alone or to have not gone home; it seems Sunday morning blues, a different shade than other blue days; or maybe it is because we have time to lounge around thinking about them
typical, it seems, for humans to be unhappy with their situation; typical too of many people is quiet complacency or resignation, a belief circumstances cannot change
Q - T or F: situations cannot be changed much without substantial effort
A - False, sometimes, most times, tiny things change the course of lives, thinking, circumstance - sometimes VERY tiny things
most circumstances do not change; change comes from the actions we take, not from the circumstances
spontaneous hello, spontaneous politically incorrect response, walking a different route, listing to someone new – or to someone old from a different vantage point – these opportunities seized without money, influence, power or social position – just a little word, a look, a step or even a mis-step can be near perfection
golf & funny bones colliding; little leaves KK lost for words, but talking about close encounters of a muser, female musers to be precise including married ones wanting than just ‘coffee’ produced more wide-eyed questions than rebuttal, more laughter than anything
back nine conversation returned to important issues: could we manage a decent score in the best-ball tournament with 1 beginner [1st round lifetime] & 2 rusty [1st round of the year] players on our team? after 5 hrs. sustained catch up chat interrupted only by some good shots, some bad shots, some good laughs & a bratwurst at the turn – two guys ‘of a certain age’ probably no different than any other 2 guys getting together; we talk about common interests, business, work, politics & women – we finished well out of the ‘prize money’ at 6-over
thanks KK, it was time well spent
I think most married men have no idea what the world of single men & single women is like (kudos to KK for being a thoughtful listener - or maybe just a thoughtful friend who listens with empathy + he is one of those rare male types who talks about his feelings); unlike married women who talk about it & read about it voraciously in search of perfection, of the tricks to awake their mates to something so simple, yet so elusive
based on my extensive research on this subject, no woman wants to say to her husband: ‘honey, I just want you to touch me warmly out of the blue for no reason at all’ because if she does then she always wonders if he really meant it or if it was just a means to an end, her end
gentlemen: there is more to a relationship than this simple truth, but not much more brilliance is required if you get this one right; so touch her warmly out of the blue for no reason at all
no need to thank me or Dr. Phil or any guru – just enjoy the many fruits of very little labour
seems I scored a direct hit yesterday: that spot where a nerve, a funny bone, a tush & a heart converge – I had no idea they were located in the same spot
thanks to all who wrote - near perfection
I don’t live in near perfection or Maui, but I can see it from here
Mark
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